“EVERYONE GIVES ADVICE TO THE NEW MOM”
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This probably happens to the majority of the women that recently became mothers for the first time: they feel as if they really know nothing about taking care of the baby, feeding him, what to do when he doesn’t seem to stop crying, how to dress the little one. Of course, immediately older relatives or friends that have children appear and everyone is competing to give you the best advice. And the amount of advice is huge but many of the indications contradict themselves.
Actually, as time passes, you start feeling like you are in some kind of rollercoaster and don’t know who you should listen to first…it seems that all of your friends have nothing better to do than give you advice. Even the mommies from the park, that you really don’t know, are now giving you advice and sharing their opinions regarding your baby: he looks too thin or too fat for his age, he is too quiet or too noisy, and how you should feed him, as if you didn’t already know that.
The truth is, that no matter how many books have been written to better explain this, being a parent is a science forever growing and changing, sometimes in a trembling way. What was good two or three years ago, today is outdated and not recommended, like placing your baby on his belly when you get him ready for sleep or giving him solid food before he turns four month old. And if in your family there hasn’t been a baby for a long time, you should expect such out-dated advice. You must try not to loose your patience because they mean well and they can’t know what the latest discoveries in this area are.
It is true that sometimes this can get very annoying. They will all say “I’ve raised a child already, you haven’t!”, but again, try not to lose your patience. In the mean time, you must claim your point of view and always stay in touch with your pediatrician – that is the best you can do for the little one. Because your family members care about the baby’s health they will be flexible and won’t try to impose at any costs.
The only problem that should really matter to you should be the following: because you are anyway lost and confused and why not, overwhelmed by the new responsibilities, there is the risk that this advice you are getting to make you wonder whether you are a good mother or not.
But, once you gave birth, the maternal instinct appears, it is actually there even when you are pregnant. No matter what everyone else says, even if you are not an expert when it comes to babies, you are however an expert in everything relater to your baby! You know and feel best what he wants and needs. Trust your instincts – you are probably doing much better that you know.
“Safety Tips When Giving Birth”
Having a baby is a joyous occasion for a couple but it could cause quite a strain on the woman’s part.
She is the one who carries the child on her womb for nine months, she suffers the morning sickness and mood swings, and she is the one who should have the strength to endure the pain and give birth to the baby when the time comes.
The key to remove your worries about giving birth safely is to prepare. Here are some safety tips that you can follow when giving birth:
1. Prepare as soon as you discover that you are pregnant.
The rule is, the earlier you prepare, the better. As soon as you have learned that you are carrying a child, read up and learn everything there is to know about being pregnant, giving birth and taking care of your child. If this is not your first time to have a baby, learn from past experiences to make this delivery an even better and safer one.
2. Before your tummy grows into a full-blown pregnancy, shop for the things that you and your baby will need.
Make a list of the things that you will need during your first trimester. Look for maternity clothes and purchase toiletries that you might need. For the baby, if you do not know the gender yet, go for neutral colors when buying clothes, blankets and other things.
3. Consult your obstetrician regularly.
Visit your ob-gyne for a regular check-up so that you would know about the status of your baby’s health. You will also be given vitamins and additional health tips by the doctor. See to it that you follow the instructions for you to give birth to a healthy child.
4. As your due date to give birth nears, make major decisions.
Decide whether you want to give birth at home or in the hospital, prepare your birth plan and check out your Medicare and health insurance package.
Pay major attention to the details. Once you have all of these prepared, you will be glad to welcome that bundle of joy in your arms after you have safely delivered your baby.
THE FIRST MOMENTS OF YOUR BABY’S LIFE
During pregnancy you sit for hours and imagine how your baby is going to look like and how will he or she feel the first time you are going to hold him. You wonder how birth for him is. How a normal baby looks, how will he react in is first hours of life. Let’s answer some of these questions.
1. What does birth mean for the baby? Imagine you are in a place in total security, warmth and without pain or any discomfort at all and suddenly from there you seem to get pushed and thrown into a world of intense sensations: light, cold, smells, noises. Your back is for the first time straight and your lungs fell funny and burn a little. And now imagine that you are going back to that universe of warmth; you feel the mother’s skin and that feeling of safety when in her arms. in an ideal world the baby has just a few moments of the hush reality before he is returned to his mother’s arms. 2. How is the baby going to look like?
His head might seem a little too big. He might have a pink or darken color or his hands and feet might be a little blue. All this is normal and the stains and strange colors will disappear in 24-48 hours.
3. What does the baby feel in his first hours?
The first hour from the life of your baby is critical. The transaction to the real life is hard and he has to adjust. If you need to know more, ask the doctor and the nurse about what they are doing to him and their results. You are allowed to ask and receive answers, after all it is your baby.
4. When is the right time to get close to the baby?
The baby can make contact with the mother just after the few moments in which he is going to cry. If the room is not too bright, he will open his eyes and concentrate on his mother’s face.
5. Is it normal for a baby to want to go the sleep right after birth?
Birth is an exhausting experience and after an hour passes the mother and the baby must be left to sleep for a couple of hours. Also it is not unusual for the baby to sleep 4-8 hours more; maybe he will awake from time to time to get some food.
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“ Newborn Baby's First Nights At Home: Tips To Help Your Baby Learn To Sleep Throughout The Night”
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You have a new baby, oh what wonder and joy this little guy or gal is, however, you have not had a good night's sleep since being home with this wonderful little creature. Don't give up. You can help your new baby sleep all night, every night. And remember, you are certainly not alone. Sleepless nights are something common for most new parents.
Newborn babies often sleep 16 or more hours per day. Their sleep time, however, is often done in stretches of just one to two hours at a time. As your baby's nervous system matures a more consistent sleep schedule emerges and he or she can go longer between feedings.
By the time your new baby reaches three months of age he or she will probably be sleeping for as long as five hours during the night. At six months of age, nighttime stretches of nine to 12 hours are most likely.
Look over the following tips to help your baby become a good sleeper:
• Encourage activity during the day: During the waking hours with your baby keep him or her busy by talking, singing and playing. Provide your baby with lots of light. This type of stimulation during the day can help promote better sleep at night.
• Monitor your baby's naps: Allow your baby regular naps during the day and not large chunks of time that may cause your baby to stay wide awake at night.
• Follow a consistent bedtime routine: If you bath, cuddle, sing or read to your baby just before bedtime he or she will soon associate these activities with sleep.
• Put your baby to bed drowsy but awake: This technique helps your baby associate bed with the process of falling asleep. Place your baby to sleep on his or her back. Clear the crib or bassinet of blankets and other soft items.
• Give your baby time to settle down: If your baby fusses when you first put him to bed, allow him or her to find a comfortable position for falling asleep. If the crying does not stop within a reasonable amount of time, try speaking calmly to your baby and stroke his or her back to provide reassurance of your presence.
• Consider using a pacifier: If your baby has trouble settling down, try using a pacifier at naptime and bedtime to help reduce his anxiety. One problem of using a pacifier might be if he or she loses during the middle of the night and cries for its replacement. Guess who has to get up in the middle of the night to find the pacifier for baby?
• Expect frequent stirring at night: Don't be alarmed if you hear your baby squirming and wriggle as they sleep. This is quite normal. Some babies can be noisy. All these things may simply be a sign of settling down. Unless you suspect your baby is hungry or uncomfortable (needing a diaper change or whatever), it is OK to wait a few minutes to see if he or she finally settles down. If not, then better check on baby.
• Keep nighttime care low-key: When you feed your baby or care for he or she during the night, use dim lights, a soft voice and very calm movements. This will teach your baby that it is time to sleep and nothing else.
Some babies sleep throughout the night the first night home. I know my baby slept through the night straight from the beginning of our nights at home. She was such a good baby I would always say.
However, not all babies are alike; respect your baby's preferences. Take time to understand your baby's schedule and ways of communicating. They will eventually settle down and sleep the whole night through. If your baby is still fussy at nighttime by age 6 months, ask your baby's doctor for instruction and suggestions.
The goal here is for everyone to get a good night's sleep. It is not a measure of your parental skill or a sign of a good or bad baby. I just always thought my baby was the absolute best at everything, and sleeping throughout the night was just one more reason I thought she was "perfect." She has paid me back though as an adult, and what I got to say about her now is not the same…..At times I ask myself is this the same person I use to know as a baby, toddler and child?
Source: Mayo Clinic, personal knowledge
Disclaimer: The information in this article is not intended to replace the medical advice of your doctor or health care provider. Please consult your health care provider for advice about specific medical concerns.
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