Some of the most common problems we as parents come up against will be covered in this section.
Changing Bad Habits – Whingeing…
The whingeing child, is among one of the most likely complaints to be heard from parents, this behavior can be quite unnerving at the best of times. When our children are unwell, tired or teething we expect to hear it often.
Boys generally take the cake in the area of being overactive, not to mention bad behavior, but as far as the whingeing goes, it seems to be the girls winning the race hands down.
There are a lot of choices in a child’s ability to whine. You will find some children like to get straight down to business and go of at full noise with no holes barred, and others that start the process as slowly as possible, like a torturer from the medieval days, making the performance last a lifetime.
Some children seem to be lacking a basic ingredient called “sense”. They know exactly when to start, but lack the sense of when enough is enough.
There are some basic steps for the treatment of whingeing:
1. Divert Your Child’s Attention.
2. Ignore Him As Much As Possible.
3. Time Out In Their Room.
4. Change TheScenery.
There are lots of diversionary tactics around the house to be taken full advantage of.
For example, “The cheeky cat from next door laying in the sun on top of the shed” or “How would you like to go and get the letters from the letterbox”.
There is always a responsible job or something exciting for children to do, just emphasize the responsibility or the importance and usually the child will forget all about what they were even going on about in the first place.
If taking their minds off the problem doesn’t work, ignoring the whingeing is the next step.
Everyone has a limit to the amount of persistent whingeing they can cope with, but pretending to ignore it tells children it is not going to help them get whatever it is they want.
Just keep in mind, the point at which you break is not to be crossed, crossing the line makes for the home being turned into a battleground not to mention undoing the work already put in and an unhappy family.
The next step is to calmly place the offending child in Time Out as mentioned earlier. Time Out will allow your child time to cool down as well as yourself.
Once you have been through the 4 steps and all have failed, there is only one left, aside from seeking professional help, and that is to scoop up the offender and head for the outdoors.
Once a whingeing child has escaped from the confines of the house their attention has a great many things to be fixed upon.
Changing Bad Habits – Truant Toddlers…
Parents will find at some time or another their child has found something else interesting apart from being dragged around shopping, and little did we know have gone to investigate further, and yes it can happen in the blink of an eye.
Most toddlers are never too far from the safety of Mum or Dad and will not entertain the idea of strolling down the street while Mum is stuck at the checkout.
While most are clingy, there are still a small percentage who don’t mind giving Mum and Dad a workout by means of a nice little game of hide and seek at the local department store which just so happens to have five floors.
Fortunately most of these escapees grow out of this habit within a six-month period due to the realization of the dangers.
Some children take years to rid this torturous habit, there are not many options available apart from parents to keep themselves in good condition and be vigilant at all times.
There is a less favorable but very effective way of stopping the runaway child and that is to fit them up with a pair of toddler reigns or a leash type arrangement.
Changing Bad Habits – Impulsive Children.
Children are not well known for their forethought at the best of times, quite a few are said to be impulsive.
The best way to describe an impulsive child is one who opens the car door without looking or running onto the road without a second thought or concern of this action.
Impulsive children act first without even being aware of the consequence existing.
If all this is compiled together with a lack of sense, then it is almost impossible to let the child out of sight.
Children with a lack of sense alone, are found not to have the ability to learn from their mistakes quickly, producing the same type of behavior as the previous few days even after being told, is not acceptable.
With this problem, there is little you can do except persist with the praising of good deeds and plenty of communication.
Children grow out of this phase, some sooner than others.