Good Parenting and Toddler Taming

The toddler years are filled with a lot of excitement, never a dull moment you could say. This is because these little human dynamos have tons of energy, a host of emotions and not much skill at expressing their feelings the right way.

The next time your toddler throws a tantrum, observe the little one closely. You will soon see that the entire episode is a very physical one; the child will hit, kick, punch, yell, grimace and pump the arms. The combination of all of these movements and actions helps the child to release all the emotion inside every part of that little body. The sheer force of this emotion will eventually cause the child to become physically subdued in time. Once the emotion is all gone, the child automatically becomes calm once more.

Where parents go wrong is to grab the child, hold on to it, punish it or take some sort of action for this display of temper. Now this is what was done to us as toddlers so it is only natural to follow a similar course of action. It may be natural, but it is not right. Know better and do not make the same mistake with your toddler. Getting rid of excessive amounts of pent up emotions is good.

What does your toddler need? A toddler needs to learn how to control his or her powerful emotions and the best person to show the child how is the parent. What the child needs is a presence that is both supporting and calm. When a child has this during the explosions, it will not grow up to feel ashamed of emotions or anger. In the toddler’s emotional memory bank gets stored the soothing, calming presence of the parents.

The best way to help your toddler learn to control angry outbursts is through your reassurance and comfort. So what exactly do we mean by comfort? At the time of these outbursts, the child needs concern, support, attention, love, care, calm and soothing comfort.

A toddler in the throes of a tantrum is out of control and needs the parent to be in control of their emotions rather than someone who is out of control as well, yelling and spanking.

Be consistent in everything to do with your toddler or the child will start manipulating you. A child that knows the parent does not always mean no when they say no, will start manipulating the situation by throwing a huge tantrum.


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