Parenting Tip Toddler | Build a Strong Relationship With Your Children

by Theresea

You start building your relationship with your child from the day the child is born.

Changing diapers and feeding the baby are activities which build up a close relationship. The child is dependent on you for its needs.

When a child grows up, the relationship between child and parent may begin to weaken. The child is able to dress up and eat without any help.

The dependence of the child on the parent is waning. The child may begin experience a degree of independence but this should not alter their relationship with the parent.

In fact, as the child grows up, the bond between the child and parent should be getting stronger. The parent has to prepare the child to be independent but at the same token, show the child that the love and affection of the parent will remain as strong as ever.

It is difficult to have the child understand the treatment of the parents to the child. If you spoil the child, the child may abuse and not take you seriously.

The child may demand things that are detrimental to their well being. If you punish the child, the child may become scared of you. You may lose the love and affection of the child as it may be replaced by fear.

You have to set a balance between the carrot and the stick. There are times when you should award them for a good job but there will be instances that punishment is required for them to obey you.

You might not be able to explain to them the reasons for your action but it should be clear to them that what you are doing is for their own good.

The training you give a child will help him or her become a better person and in the process build a stronger relationship with them.

Initially, it is not vital for them to understand why or what you are doing as long as they follow your instructions. Discipline should be inculcated in the child. Reasoning will come later.

As you wield the power, you should slowly bring up the reasoning for your actions. It may not be wholly acceptable to the child. What counts is that your actions are based on a rational reason for the good of the child.

The child should come to realize that your love and concern for the child brings you to do certain actions which may hurt but are necessary to implant the values.

Be consistent in your values and actions. Enforce the rules firmly and decisively. Have the child follow your instructions unquestioningly.

Eventually the child will know the rules and the consequences of not following them. As the child grows, allow them to make their own choices.

Guide them but leave the final decision to them. Be positive and observe your values playing a part in their choices. “Bossing” the children may be effective at the early ages. Use positive communication later on in their lives.

Remember they have their own lives to live and their own mistakes to experience. Establish dialogues with your children and help them choose the right path.


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